Sister Wives’ Christine Brown “hit it off immediately” with ex-husband Kody Brown when they met at church — but according to her, their sex life never really took off.
Christine, 53, detailed the highs and lows of her and Kody’s intimacy in her new memoir, Sister Wife: A Memoir of Faith, Family and Finding Freedom, including what transpired on their honeymoon and how she felt hearing Kody have sex with his first two wives, Meri Brown and Janelle Brown.
Christine met Kody, now 56, when she was 19 and witnessed him become a husband to Meri in 1990 and Janelle in 1993 before she hinted that she should be wife No. 3.
“Of all the guys I know, I would just as soon marry you,” she recalled telling Kody when she was 21, revealing in her book that “he took it as a proposal.”
Following a three-month courtship, during which Christine chose not to kiss Kody, the pair tied the knot in 1994. The couple had their first kiss at the altar and hours later, Christine lost her virginity — but it wasn’t the fairytale she imagined. (Christine and Kody announced their split in November 2021. Janelle confirmed her separation from Kody in December 2022, and Meri announced her split from the patriarch in January 2023.)
“Looking back, I thought it would be the best night of my life — magic,” she wrote in the book, which is now on sale. “We stayed in a motel shaped like a castle near Ogden, Utah.”
Scroll down for everything we learned about Christine and Kody’s sex life in Sister Wife: A Memoir of Faith, Family and Finding Freedom:
Underwhelming 1st Kiss
“I remember Kody opening the door and looking at me in my shroud-like dress. I remember realizing he was stressed out on our wedding day,” she wrote of their wedding day. “I remember understating he wasn’t as excited to marry me as I was to marry him.”
When it came to the long-await kiss, she recalled, “Kody gave me a peck, barely brushing my lips.” She added, “You know how people like to clap after that kiss at the altar? Silence. … After that, I lost count of the awkward moments.”
Losing Her Virginity
“It hurt like crazy, and I cried. ‘I’m so sorry,’ he said, as I recall. But it hurt because there was no foreplay. There was no anything,” Christine recalled. “It was my very first time after having my very first kiss at the altar, and he was experienced so he should have known.”
She remembered being taken aback by her lack of preparation and Kody’s alleged nonchalant attitude regarding her first sexual experience. “‘I’ve been looking forward to this for so long,’ I said, crying from the pain. I envisioned handholding, moonlight, gentle touches,” Christine explained. “I imagined feeling beautiful and adored. I imagined a loving acknowledgement of our eternal life together. For the rest of our honeymoon, I was too sore for us to try again.”
‘The Walls Were Thin’
After their road trip honeymoon, Christine moved in with Kody, Meri and Janelle in their three-bedroom trailer in Wyoming. Christine noted that the proximity made being intimate even more uncomfortable.
“I knew how close he could be with Meri and Janelle. The walls were thin,” she wrote. “It’s one thing to know our roommate is having sex in the next bedroom over. It’s another when it’s your husband and you can hear everything.”
Polygamy PJs
Christine wore religious garments or “polygamy PJs” under her clothes growing up, describing them as “long johns” that went from the ankles to the wrists. She noted that while they were “supposed” to wear them at all times, including during sex, she started to feel like Kody didn’t want her to wear them simply for “religious reasons” because there were occasions where she didn’t wear them.
“If I wasn’t wearing the garments, he wanted me to wear lingerie — but it never felt like it was for [a] sexy reason. It felt like it was so I would be covered,” she confessed.
Christine, who shares six children with Kody, revealed it felt like her spouse didn’t want to “see” her or “be skin on skin.” She reflected, “I had been so confident when I got married, but that part of my personality started to erode. That first year, I lost myself.”
Her 1st Orgasm
The Brown family lived in Wyoming for five years in the late ‘90s, many of which included the birth of new children and expanding their brood. Christine remembered that time fondly, partly because of her connection with Kody.
“Kody and I had great dates. We went on trips together, we sang together in the car. … We loved to dance together,” she shared. “We even got into a rhythm with sex, and there were a few years where it was kind of good.”
She revealed, “About two years into our marriage, I had my first orgasm. … It was entirely accidental, but still.”
One-Sided Foreplay
Christine claimed that as their relationship went on, she “always had to initiate” sex with Kody, usually in the form of massages. “I felt like I had to give him massages so he would have sex with me,” she wrote. “I qualified it as ‘the special thing I did.’”
The mother of six alleged that when she asked for a shoulder rub from Kody, he said, “It’s not a turn-on for me,” or “I’m already tired.” Christine wrote, “The foreplay was for Kody.”
Christine later revealed that after Kody allegedly refused to help “put the kids to bed at night” while she was working late to pay off her debt, she “stopped giving Kody massages.”
“I realized I didn’t have a functioning marriage. … It’s over, I thought. I can’t respect him if he won’t help me with our children,” she said of her headspace, but the pair stayed together for nearly another decade.
The Door to Nowhere
In 2020, Kody and Christine’s daughter Ysabel had surgery on her back to help correct an S-shape curve she’d had as a child. Although Kody not being at the hospital for the procedure irked Christine — he didn’t want to leave fourth wife Robyn Brown and their young children amid COVID quarantine restrictions — she said she still had hope that their sex life would get back on track.
Christine recalled thinking that Kody’s idea to get a door in her house to close off their bedroom from the shared family space was a sign he wanted more intimacy. However, he said it was because he didn’t want the cat upstairs.
“I thought we were putting the door in so we could have the intimate part of our marriage back,” Christine wrote of the interaction between them. “‘I’m not really interested in that with you,’ he said. ‘What?’ I said. After everything I still felt sick. 25 years [together].”
She claimed Kody replied, “‘I never have been [interested in sex with you].’” That was a turning point for Christine. The next time Kody came over to her house for his usual visit, she “told him our marriage was over. I told him I would be moving back to Utah.”
Christine remembered deciding that day that they were divorced. “In my calendar, on November 2, 2020, it simply says, ‘Freedom.’ There was no committee. I got to say when we were done. I am nacho wife anymore,” she wrote. It would be another year before she publicly announced their breakup.
Sister Wife: A Memoir of Faith, Family and Finding Freedom is available to purchase anywhere books are sold.
Sister Wives returns for season 20 on TLC Sunday, September 28, at 10 p.m. ET.
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