A newly married man has been slammed online after branding his wife “disgusting” over a common habit.
In a controversial Reddit post, the man detailed his new wife’s bathroom act that left him “really irked.”
“My wife and I recently got married and moved in together. She has a bathroom habit that really irks me,” he wrote.
“She likes to leave pee in the toilet and not flush each time to ‘conserve water, ’” he added, saying that his wife picked up the habit from her mom.
He complained he got tired of walking into the bathroom and it always smelled like “p—.”
But it “was the straw that broke the camel’s back” after it happened during her period.
Fed up, he called her disgusting, saying, “I don’t care about saving a penny on a gallon of water, you’re disgusting, you need to start flushing EVERY TIME.”
After the incident, his wife became quiet and stopped speaking to him.
“I can’t help but feel like I did something wrong, but looking back, I feel it was justified,” he said.
In an edit, he added it wasn’t the first time he’d tried to address the issue, having previously asked her to flush the toilet.
“She apparently hid this habit from me. We lived together for a year, and she never did this, and now it comes out all of a sudden,” he wrote.
Commenters were left divided, with many branding the husband as an “a–hole.”
“You called your wife ‘disgusting’ and wonder why she’s upset? Use tact,” one user wrote.
“He really thought we would all jump on the bandwagon and agree his wife is disgusting,” another commented.
While others were amazed, the couple was still married.
“Frankly, this explosion and insult should lead to her moving out and filing for divorce,” a user commented.
The post, which has more than 5000 comments, revealed it’s not about flushing the toilet, it’s about how you speak to your spouse.
Relationship and intimacy coach Susie Kim weighed in on the drama, labelling this type of behaviour as “damaging.”
“The reality is that when you’re living with someone, a lot of your interactions are around the small, daily household habits,” Kim said. “If you feel annoyed by your partner’s toilet habits, it’s something that can affect you every single day, and this can slowly build resentment over time.”
But according to the intimacy coach, the bigger and more telling issue in this scenario was how the conflict was navigated and communicated.
“The way a couple handles disagreements, large or small, is both reflective and determinative of the health of the relationship,” she explained.
“Comments like this suggest a lack of respect and contempt. Repeated criticism and expressions of contempt undermine trust and connection.”
Kim advised couples to stay away from criticizing their partners and to lead by sharing their own needs and feelings without going into blame.
“It’s not about making your partner wrong, it’s about sharing how their behaviour impacts you and then making requests from there.”
Despite the noise, the thread made one thing clear: when it comes to relationships, respect comes first and house rules second.
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