It’s not you, it’s me.
There are various reasons why someone cheats in a relationship. One relationship coach recently pointed out a jaw-dropping reason that will probably make many people reevaluate their role in their romantic relationships.
During a recent interview on Jay Shetty’s “On Purpose” podcast, Sadia Khan said that it can be the person who got cheated on’s fault for the infidelity in the relationship because they didn’t pay attention to specific signs.
Before you freak out over this advice — Khan does actually make a valid point.
As the saying goes, actions speak louder than words. The expert reminded listeners that it’s crucial to pay attention to how someone acts — as red flags often reveal themselves early on.
“People don’t usually lie. They may say lies, but they’ll show you their red flags, pretty much from day one,” Khan told Shetty,
“…it might be that you caught them in a few lies when you first got with them. You would’ve caught some sign that this person is capable of deeper lies.”
Oftentimes, people in relationships know the other person better than they know themselves — and Khan said to keep that in mind if you suspect infidelity from your significant other.
“If you pay close attention to your partner, then it’s quite difficult for them to live a whole double life without you catching on,” she explained.
Another hot take from Khan is that men often get cheated on for loosening the reins too much with the women they’re dating or married to.
“‘So whenever a man comes to me who’s been cheated on, he’ll tell me, ‘I never stopped her from doing anything. I allowed to go on holidays whenever she wanted, I allowed her to come home whenever she wanted, she could post whatever she wanted on Instagram and she still cheated on me!’ ‘And I say to them, ‘Duh!’” she explained.
Another unexpected way you can catch your partner in the act is by paying attention to random, innocent-looking emojis that could be a dead giveaway they’re cheating.
Croissant or padlock emojis might seem harmless, but according to private investigator Paul Jones from ARF Private Investigators, they might mean something more devastating.
“We’ve had people using a croissant emoji as a way of saying ‘meet me for breakfast,’ or the letter emoji as a subtle ‘text me when you’re free,’” Jones told the Sun.
“Used once or twice, they don’t mean much,” he told the outlet.
“But when you see them appearing regularly in chats with the same person, especially late at night, they start to mean something more.”
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