He dug his own hole.
A frustrated wife and mother took to the U.K.-based community site Mumsnet to vent about her husband’s irrational complaints about having to care for their children while she works.
She provided more context in the forum, explaining that her husband is unemployed due to health reasons and she works part-time, yet he complains about her work schedule.
He supposedly tells her she “should get a job that fits around school hours and no way should I be working on the weekend (we always have one weekend day free). He knew the days/hours I was working and we both agreed it would be ok,” she wrote in her post.
The real kicker is that after a day of work, she comes home to him, moaning and groaning that he’s had to look after his own children. “He does one school drop off and one pick up. He has the rest of the day/s to do as he pleases.”
Forget man-child, this guy is a big man-baby.
Clearly feeling frustrated and unsure how to handle this situation, the mom asked the online community if her husband’s immature behavior is justified and if she should look for another job that better suits her family.
“Well he needs to actually contribute to family life??? If he can’t work he needs to be caring for the kids/ home! If he does neither then what’s the point of him being there? (Excepting profound disability, of course),” someone wrote.
“Of course you’re not being unreasonable?? Does he just think neither of you should work?? Maybe some people think that but most of us don’t. I’d stop being so tolerant…” one commenter replied.
“I’d say get a full-time job. If he’s at home full time, then he is effectively moaning about his job, and he’s allowed to do that, but not to the point that it’s all he does, or it’s the first thing you hear when you come home…” another chimed in.
The original poster added, “I get the impression he is envious that I’m able to go to work and he’s stuck at home. He has always worked up until he was unable to. The reason he can’t work is unlikely to improve.”
To which another mom replied, “Then he needs to get with the program of being a stay-at-home-dad. Maybe suggest some counselling to him, if you think he’s struggling with the change.”
This irrational husband might be complaining, but at least he’s not selfishly asking to go on a vacation without his wife and newborn.
Clearly, the bar is low.
“I’d be less than a month postpartum from major abdominal surgery … I thought he’d obviously be home to help and support me — so I was shocked and hurt he’d even ask this,” his shocked wife wrote on Reddit.
“NTA, no way he should be leaving you alone with the kids that soon,” one appalled commenter wrote.
“I don’t think your husband knows what a partnership is or how serious C-sections are if his first instinct is to leave you alone two weeks after giving birth,” added another.
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